He says, she says... very different!

Tonight we watched Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston's movie, The Break-up and frankly, it's not as bad as all the critics say! I liked it, and even my boyfriend (who didn't want to see it) gave it a "B"!

I think the reason I liked it was because it was such a relatable topic. It's really true when they say men and women think differently, which is usually why there are arguments. Without giving the movie away, the crux of VV and JA's characters' disagreement surrounds what JA wants from VV and how VV just doesn't get it, which is a common theme in many relationships.

Women don't like to have to ask for everything from their men... women want their man to just want the things the woman want without having expressly asking --- even if they say the complete opposite. Call it passive aggressive or whatever, but that's just how it is. If a woman says she doesn't need flowers, men should understand that that means to the woman, flowers aren't practical and are not necessary all the time --- HOWEVER, it is still nice to have every once in a while because it is romantic and a nice surprise. Most women will never say "yes, please bring me flowers," they want men to WANT to bring them flowers! There is no logic to that --- relationships are not logical, they're built on gut and emotion, and perhaps a little mind-reading... perhaps that's why men and women differ so much, because men are always looking for logic.

Here is some interpretive guidance to help you men out there...

If you ask a woman "what's wrong" and she says "nothing" --- pursue it because 90% of the time, something is wrong and she wants you to drag it out of her. Ask at least seven or eight times (and simultaneously think hard about what you could have done wrong!)...

If you ask a woman "what she'd like" and she says "it doesn't matter" ---- of course it matters! She doesn't want to force her choice on you, but she wants you to choose what she wants. So put yourself in her shoes and make your choice what you think she would want.

If a woman goes off somewhere or does something by herself, make sure you TELL her you'd like to do that with her or go with her, if it's OK with her. (Don't ASK her if she wants you to go with her or do it with her, cuz the obvious answer will be no because she doesn't want to force you to do that.) She'd rather you want to do that with her or want to go with her on your own, without having to be asked. Women don't want to nag men because we know you don't like that. But don't make us nag you!

Bottom line, men ---- stop trying to be logical! Spend your energy learning how to think like her.